DO: Invite close friends and friends you want to get to know better.

Obviously, Friendsgiving is all about being thankful for the family you get to choose: your best friends. Invite the people that mean the most to you and those you want to become closer with. This is an opportunity to turn the holiday season into something meaningful to you and those you love.

DON’T: Invite known frenemies.

Sure, drama at the dinner table might seem fun in theory, but the awkwardness of Thanksgiving is all too real once a certain frenemy mentions that embarrassing thing you did in seventh grade. That kind of conniving, passive-aggressive behavior is best left to your family get-together. Save yourself (and everyone else) the trouble and only invite people who will try their best to get along.

DO: Make sure everyone pitches in.

At a normal Thanksgiving, one family member is usually given the task of assembling a feast for upwards of a dozen people. Friendsgiving is all about everyone working together so no one person is left to be the “responsible one.” Have each guest bring something: food, decorations, a radiant personality, etc. Work together! Friendsgiving is scientifically proven to be the chillest holiday, so don’t stress about being in control of every single detail.

DON’T: Be unorganized.

The worst case scenario for a Friendsgiving is that no one shows up. The second worst case scenario is if everyone somehow neglects to be the one in charge of food. What’s Friendsgiving without the actual dinner? Sad, that’s what it is. Being a host can be hectic, but at the very least, make sure your guests don’t starve because you forgot to make pie.

DO: Have some fun, borderline cheesy activities for your guests.

Remember in first grade when your teacher would make you draw turkeys using a handprint? Don’t be afraid to have a silly throwback like that for your guests! Life is stressful; Friendsgiving shouldn’t be. Get in the holiday spirit and make some glitter pine cones or something just as kitchy. It’ll bring you closer together and at least you get something to haphazardly regift to your cousin when you inevitably forget to get them a Christmas present.

DON’T: Force a “what I’m thankful for” sharing session.

This should be a given. Forcing an emotional breakthrough is a surefire way to ruin the casual occasion. If the conversation moves in that direction, that’s fine. But demanding that guests reveal what they are grateful for is a step too far. Save that conversation for your family celebration.

DO: Thank your guests.

Friendsgiving is the perfect opportunity to show your friends how much they mean to you. Too often, people become so busy that they forget to thank their support systems. Friends who are there for you in tough times deserve some recognition. Let them know that their friendship does not go unnoticed.